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Men often want to know the 'lines' to say to get things going with
women.
So many guys will think, "what can I say to capture her attention
instead of dumb boring questions like where are you from?"
Yet, they're missing the whole point completely because they're not
operating in the natural relational dynamic. That's the
'line ' I actually use the MOST to connect with women and
consistently yields incredible results.
It's NOT about what to say when you're approaching a woman. Plus, if
you're even thinking about what to say and making it
'conscious' at ALL you're going further in the wrong direction; the
whole time trying 'not' to screw it up.
If you're self-conscious in any way or change your behavior
(dropping in character I call it) when you're around women,
you're already losing. You just gave up your power to her and it
will probably only get worse. And most guys do this BEFORE
they even approach her.
When Jim approaches Nadia in 'American Pie' at the house party, he's
operating in the social relational dynamic where she has
the obvious power.
He's thinking about what to say and 'how' to approach to somehow get
around the concept that he's approaching and trying not
to show his nervousness which is so obvious.
It is what it is and women know...they know.
He's just placed himself into a response relationship to her social
attributes as the stimulus. For success you have to be
her relational equal so she can trust you. A man who is truly
comfortable in his own skin in RELATION to HER.
That's way more important than being a 'character' or unique
'personality'.
If you think you have to be unique you go into the jumping monkey
mode of trying to impress the woman, buying her gifts,
showering her with attention when it's OBVIOUS you have agenda and
are
uncomfortable around her.
Really, your interest doesn't even matter because a woman is the
path to sex and if you're uncomfortable around her at the
very beginning how could she ever expect you to be the man in the
bedroom?
You see, women actually do hold the power. The power to CHOOSE and
let in a man or not. It's up to them to open their
petals up to you. And you want them choosing you don't you?
Making it logical and a conscious task is only opening room to screw
up an already natural process in which she is intuitive
and knows her role. Men just aren't operating in that natural
dynamic though.
So stop focusing on pick-up lines in how to approach if that's been
you and focus instead on operating in the natural
relational dynamic where you can see a woman's true sexuality and be
normal.
You don't have to say ANYTHING and when you do it doesn't matter
what you say when you're just being social and comfortable
around her. THEN the relationship can accelerate whether you're that
unique or not.
So to capture the attention of women and have them magnetized to
you, focus on true behavioral change instead of superficial
solutions. Then you can just communicate like you do with
other people. Start off PG or PG-13 and take it from there.
Just make a connection and 'say anything' such as "hey", "hey, how's
it goin'?" "nice day isn't it?"
The most important thing here is just to be perfectly NORMAL.
This invisible approach allows her to finally gain interest in YOU
(partly because you actually respect her) and before you
know it things are naturally advancing along and she wasn't
even logically conscious of what you were doing.
When she's interested it's easy to get her info and there's little
resistance because it's all about what she's going
through.
At that point you can throw something out for the future to lock
something in like, "Hey, let's do something sometime (that
you or her would be interested in)" and she'll usually say 'ok'.
Then you can get her contact info. I've done this
effectively many a time and it's completely natural. It's what women
are looking for.
Though it's another topic, she'll be calling you when she's
interested and that's almost always better than you calling a
woman.
So focus on making 'connections' with women and letting them start
to pique their own interest in you instead of taking all
the pressure on yourself of 'what to say'.
If you do it properly, this is completely rejection proof anyways
because they have no reason to reject someone who is being
social, interesting and respecting her power (of choice).
This is the way of the natural ladies man.
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