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Unfortunately most men think that because of the way she looks and
how some of them behave that they want to have sex right away.
This isn't accurate. Women are the path to sex and have to be warmed
up first. They are tired of guys thinking of the same thing.
Men have been conditioned to believe that sex is instantaneous
because of all of the pornography, sexploitation and softcore that
is out there today.
They're seeing the exploitation of the culmination of a pre-existing
relationship. A relationship which was fake in the first place
(contracted by the producer) yet looks very real
because it's all they see in front of them.
Many women have become involved in that industry and even more have
taken on the physical attributes of men's magazine cover models,
pussycat dolls, divas or porn stars.
What men have to know is that this is NOT a woman's sexuality.
And yes, this is the most ironic thing in the world but it's up to
the man to know where he stands in relation to all of this power so
he can connect with women instead of having them
reject him.
So if she was behaving like a prickteasing cover model, it would
mean her behavior has to change if she is to get to sex. Exactly.
The only exception is if there is the social equivalent of the
average looking porn star male who is congruent in thinking that he
is a porn star. At that point, some women might slip into that
social fantasy role because they've already taken on many of the
other attributes.
So how do they slip into the path to sex mode in REALITY?
Well, a kiss is a great example. All of their adaptive social
conditioning fades away and they get in touch with their repressed
natural character when they close their eyes.
In order for a man or woman to take the path to sex, the path has to
be triggered and opened. I call it the natural (sexual) relational
dynamic where the man is the stimulus and the
woman is the response who realizes his subtle yet masculine
authority.
Within women themselves, they know that this adaptive behavior is
not their true sexuality. Despite millions of women looking vampish,
it's up to men to know that she really is NOT a slut.
You have to respect a woman and though it may be difficult when
you're only seeing her 'sexually', you have to cultivate cognition
of her true sexuality if you want to be able to
achieve consistent success with women.
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