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This topic can be looked at from different angles.
In most cases it will only hurt the man and the relationship.
In general, the dynamics of a lasting relationship includes the man
having the (invisible) relational authority and the woman, without
challenging that, remaining as more of the
submisser.
That is the natural relational dynamic which lasts. Natural women
know their place and don't challenge the man's natural authority in
the relationship.
Today's independent women immediately want to challenge that
timeless fact and it brings up all kinds of byproducts such as a 50%
divorce rate.
A natural woman though, doesn't want to become the man or lead the
relationship, nor have him do her natural roles which she does best.
The man should also respect and love the woman for the role she is
doing while supporting his role (as provider/protector).
With that said, our dynamics have changed. That's why millions of
men are confused.
Men can be themselves in a relationship and their wife will often
take over the relationship because of her own development and he
doesn't know how to behave around it because it's
unnatural (which she doesn't realize).
Those are just some of the dynamics we have today extrapolated into
a longer term relationship. So...when dealing with the empowered
women upfront it just isn't really safe to tell her
how a man feels anyways.
Relationships are a balance of power. Like I already covered;
lasting relationships have one unspoken leader (usually the man) and
the other (the wife who doesn't challenge his natural
authority).
I've seen many relationships where the woman takes on the role of
wearing the pants in the family. Those relationships can last but
it's unnatural for a man to be repressed that much
and he just puts up with her control.
So if relationships are a delicate power balance, which both parties
knew instinctively (and women have developed past their
instinctiveness), they are now more of a power balance than
ever.
Since First World women now have 'power', relationships of any form
become a power struggle or balance of power. There will be turmoil
if there isn't one official 'lead' of the relationship.
Unfortunately, when a man tells a woman 'how he feels' even in a
short-term 'dating' relationship, this basically means that he has
given up her power to her and she now has the true yet often hidden
'relational authority' of the relationship.
She now 'owns him' and only because of who she is.
Natural women don't have this problem. They instinctively know their
natural role and stay in proper relational dynamic with men which
lasts. Their love will only grow stronger
provided he doesn't 'overdo it' and really give the power to her.
With an empowered woman who already has power, if a man says
something like this, he looks weak and she has the authority and
takes over.
All of this prevents men from telling how they feel unless they're
an 'EMO' wussbag who is sprouting out all of his pent up emotions
for an 'independent and wonderful' woman.
Unfortunately in the true relational 'power' dynamic, he has given
his power up to the woman.
I have to re-emphasize again that natural women do not have this
problem. So while many dating guru's are immediately blaming the men
as wussies for showing ANY kind of emotion, they're missing the
dynamics which currently exist.
Our female behavior prevents most men from showing any kind of
emotion without losing his relational authority. She'll start losing
interest immediately just alone for the fact
that she is so developed and the relational power balance is
extremely delicate (and many men HAVE become 'fragile').
Many men are fragile because of our media propagation of gay role
models instead of masculine alpha models. This will only grow
further in the direction it's going with more and more female
'empowerment'.
Sure, women may want 'men to be men' but the reality is, though it
started out as an equality movement, women have grown unnaturally
equal..they've grown 'stronger' and more powerful.
None of this helps real or lasting relationships.
Men don't even have the freedom to tell a woman how he feels.
Heck, even strong men like me who retain authority over a
relationship have VERY little squeeze room to express ourselves
without her losing immediate interest.
Girls, this is all to your detriment for better and worse.
I predict that you won't change. You can't because you don't have a
supportive 'stimulus' of an environment which has it's priorities on
natural attributes and happiness instead of
socially-driven 'career' advancement.
Once you develop, it's hard to behaviorally go back to your roots.
The advantage men have is that they can be more balanced and can
'develop' because of their natural (yes I said it) role of head of
the house and leader.
So men don't want to be 'wussy'...they have emotions and I admit
that it's gotten out of control but there's a deeper context here.
Other guru's don't realize the full fragile balance of power in a
relationship. Unfortunately for men to be successful with you as a
woman who is reading, they will have to repress
their emotions in order to avoid swinging the delicate balance of
power over into your favor.
And if they do show any sign, you'll lose interest in reality and
it's over. Quite tragic in a way.
One answer for millions of men is to find natural women; women with
whom they actually CAN show emotion who will reciprocate the emotion
and not lose attraction to him but actually grow
stronger in healthy attraction to him.
I've experienced this countless times and that's the natural way of
things; it's the way it's meant to be and the natural alpha women
are experiencing in reality what the prada's and
prickteases only fantasize about because they are in touch with
their natural character in their behavioral reality.
That is the natural way of things and it's what millions of
developed women are missing. They can't experience true romance
because of their own 'power'.
So men...if you DO want to show your emotion to a woman..keep in
mind that if you show it to a Prada or Pricktease, you're almost
guaranteed to lose your power and she'll have the unnatural
favor in the relationship and then will lose interest in you.
If you want to experience and transmute all of this cognitive
'emotion', meet a real natural alpha (outside the U.S.) and she'll
actually appreciate and love you for it instead of losing interest.
They won't always 'leave you' for it. Otherwise still I would say
for men to tame down their 'emotional response' to our women because
as a man you're ALWAYS the stimulus for a woman
to respond to anyways.
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